Spring Has Sprung...Again

It seems you can always tell when Spring gets here. You don't have to look at a calendar. You don't even have to go outside or check the weather. You don't have to do much of anything really because the same things happen like clockwork every year.
We've been in this lifestyle longer than many of the people who read this blog have been alive. Yet March invariably brings out the same thing. The styles change a little as does the tactics and delivery but, what many of us who has been around for a while kiddingly call, "Swingers Spring Fever" hits.
Like the Tennyson poem claiming that when Spring arrives "...a young man's fancy turns to love." Swingers seem to turn their sights on new connections and experiences...and it isn't just the men who seem to get those urges these days. Maybe it's a way to re-connect with days gone by or maybe it's a way to obtain those days we never had for whatever reason. I don't know and I'm pretty sure it's too personal a question for everyone to want to know.
Never the less our e-mail boxes all started filling up mid-March with notes from people we haven't heard from in ages, never heard from before or, possibly, never wanted to hear from to begin with. It doesn't seem to matter if they've been around for a long time or just decided to give it a try the urge to make contact takes over us like contact junkies in trying to get their fill of an addictive drug. People suddenly forget how to read and frantically send notes to others who might have only remote similarities to themselves...but the pictures look appealing. The interests are on another planet...but the pictures look good. The age ranges are nowhere to even remotely close...but...you get the picture.
This is also the time of year where people,caught up in the momentum, try and sneak under the radar with less than honorable reasons. Single and married men used to be the culprits in years past. Single women have seldom, if ever, had to explore that tactic but, married women have closed the gap somewhat over the past few years.
Single people pretending to be in a relationship or married, married people pretending to be single, couples saying they're looking for new horizons when only one of them actually is, older pretending to be younger, not so fit pretending to be fit and so on.
As a fun example of the dozen or so we get each week this time of year. We got one from a "Single" woman who wanted to play just with the Mrs. OK...not an unusual or potentially out of bounds in our house but rather than respond back right away we did a little digging. We found her profile on three different sites with the same few pics of her (she is attractive BTW) on the site she contacted us on it was pretty straightforward. The other two, however, included deep in the profile text what she failed to mention on thatfirst site. She was in fact married, her husband would be present (preferably him only watching)when they played and if the urge struck them all he'd join in when the girls were done getting each other off. HMMMMMMMMMMM
Another was from a couple whose sexual preferences were decidedly NOT in our wheelhouse nor did they even have a pic of themselves but were convinced we'd all get along famously. Again HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
It was bad enough they paid no attention to the verbage in our profile but to include the note that they're not HOMOPHOBIC (no shit...in Caps)about such things to a couple, which one of them has a decidedly bisexual orientation, isn't exactly sending out a signal we'd get along at all.
C'mon people! We know your hormones and sexual urges have just come out of hibernation again but stop and think before you hit send. All you're going to do is frustrate the recipient and probably yourself. Close is one thing. Not on the radar is something else entirely. And...regardless if you're experienced, inexperienced, young, old, purple, green or whatever. Whether you like it or not...a picture still says a thousand words and since this is a lifestyle where attraction isn't necessarily the only thing, but it is the most important thing. You can come up with a million excuses why you don't post or provide pics on profiles or e-mails but the simple fact is...few, if any, are valid ones.
As for you pretenders out there...you'll discover that if you're honest you'll get respect. It may not get you all of the action you'd like to get but what you do get will be quality and might lead to bigger and better things for you much quicker...not only that...the rst of us won't have to use the DELETE button quite as much.